I recently stumbled upon this story by @njokichege on Friday, July 11, 2014. It has caused a huge stir among the Kenyan women. I thought it a piece that was very raw and honest from her perspective. Be it real or fiction, it was something that we are certainly not accustomed to thus the rebuttle and backlash. In my opinion, no one shoud be offended unless there is some truth to the article. I fit into the profile of this thunder-thighed woman but I am not up in arms looking for Njoki’s head. Oh well, sad as it may be, I am greatly humoured by it all and as such, my quest for borrowed stories just took a juicy turn 🙂
“Why do men cheat? No, let me rephrase the question. Why would a God-fearing man, who sings in the church choir cheat on his wife or girlfriend?
Is it because he is a wicked piece of junk that has completely lost its moral compass or he is an insatiable being?
There are several reasons why a man cheats, but as a woman, have you ever thought that you could be the reason why your husband strays? That you could have contributed 100 per cent to making him see in other skirts what he does not see in yours?
I see you are getting vexed and disgusted, but truth be told, women contribute a lot to their husband’s philandering ways. Here is what turns him off.
You are fat:
I like to call a spade a spade. When I see a fat girl, I will call her fat. Most married women I know are fat. Children or no children, you have lost your physical attractiveness.
What I see on the streets are rolls upon rolls of fat and flesh wobbling around. I look at some married women and I pity their husbands, asking myself “How do you get turned on by that?” or “How do you wash all that mass?”
I understand that the vagaries of life and childbirth take their toll on a woman’s body, but ladies, can you shove this stinking attitude of “plus-size and loving it?” It is time women stopped lying to themselves that big is beautiful; that plus size is attractive and that what matters is what is inside.
To hell with inner beauty! Who gets turned on by inner beauty? Who cares if you have a wonderful heart and a wiggly mass of flesh for a behind? Big is not beautiful. Those ‘tyres’ around your waist are not love handles; they are ugly, unsightly and unheavenly.
Those flabby arms are not sexy at all; they are disgusting to look at and you must reduce them. Those stretch marks are not beauty marks of childbirth, they are as a result of your uncontrolled consumption of loads of food and you need to stop eating like a pig.
A man can afford a potbelly and get away with being thought to be rich but an overweight woman is a disgrace.
Do away with your thunder thighs ladies; they are excess baggage you don’t need. If it has been two years since you had a child and your tummy still wobbles when you brush your teeth, then you are a lazy bum.
I don’t care if you have a busy schedule or four kids. If you have time to down an entire mug of uji, then girl, it is time to hit the gym.
Stop giving your husbands a rough time by expecting them to look away when they see a woman with a great body pass by when you resemble a baby hippo.
You are an idle nag:
You are fat, and then, you are a nag. How difficult can your husband’s life get? Your physical unattractiveness sticks out like a sore thumb and you want to reduce your chances of happiness by topping it up with being an irritating nag that cannot give her husband peace?
If he tells you he is in the pub with wazee, why the hell would you bombard his phone with texts and calls asking him where he is?
What you need is to get a life, friends, a pet or a hobby. Hit the ground running with projects at work and oh…signing up for the gym.
It takes a lot of your time and takes your mind off stuff. A nagging woman, no matter how physically attractive she is, will end up with a cheating husband who is not sorry for straying. For goodness sake, stop going through his phone and will you stop asking who ‘Sheila’ is?
You have no sense of fashion:
The first thing you notice about a woman is her fashion sense. Then her face and her physical appearance. I have seen some of you show up in the office looking like you were run over by a truck. Your clothes are distasteful and ill-fitting and your hair looks like grass in City Stadium after a tough football match.
How much will it cost you to dress well? How much will it cost you to do away with the ugly dresses and drab jeans? Are you so backward that you cannot even flip through a fashion magazine or blog to look at the latest fashion trends.
How long will it take you to put some lipstick and heels? I don’t expect you to wear six-inch heels, but what is a woman who cannot sashay and strut in a sexy pair of heels?
Is your life so miserable that you cannot be creative enough to have another hairstyle besides that stinking plastic bird nest you call a weave?
Ladies, competition is tough and there are very many attractive women walking around this town. Just because you are hitched with three children does not mean you must squeeze yourself in that sickening faded pair of trousers and flat shoes.
Just because you are somebody’s mother doesn’t mean that you can’t show some leg and cleavage, lots of it. Who says because you are a born-again mother of four and a devoted wife you cannot look fantastic and decent in a figure hugging dress?
You are lazy and boring:
Let’s face it. Since you got married, you have become a boring, dull and gloomy stay-at-home mother and wife whose one and only goal is to raise children.
You will be damned if you expect your husband to follow suit. You have lost your taste for fun and your idea of it is taking the children out for chips and swimming.
Your husband does not crave your company anymore and the only place you go together is church, visiting family and friends. You let your husband go alone for jogging or to the gym and you think he will not cheat on you with the chic that reminds him to go for jogging?
How thick can you get? If you are not your husband’s recreational partner, then somebody else will be. There are pretty young things that understand there is more to life than sitting at home watching Nigerian movies and Corazon Indomable.
The truth is, if your husband doesn’t find you fun to be with, don’t expect him to find you sexually attractive. That is the painful truth.“